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Uncover Your Blindspots With This Emotional Intelligence Tool
Marilyn Orr
Blessed blindspots ... We all have them. Those parts of how we see ourself or how we relate to others that just don’t quite line up with how others experience us.
These blindspots can cause all kinds of issues for us - from preventing us from getting promoted to stress in our closest relationships.
There are many ways to uncover these blindspots - ask your partner what you do that’s annoying, complete a 360 evaluation or simply have kids and wait until they are teenagers, they will tell you, for sure!
A tool that I’ve been doing a lot of work with though is a tool that measures 15 specific scales within emotional intelligence. Not only do your scores on each scale paint a picture but, perhaps even more importantly, the relationships between key scales is very critical.
The EQ-i 2.0® is one of the most researched psychological assessments in the marketplace. It is the most widely used emotional intelligence tool in the world.
Here’s an example of how two of the scales might interact with each other.
Imagine that the assessment for a manager that you are working with comes back showing that empathy is low and impulse control is also low. It is highly likely that this manager may be acting rashly in uncaring ways with members of their team. Not realizing that they are not taking the feelings of others in to account effectively will be an important point of discussion. Looking at how they may not be effectively resisting or delaying taking actions will be a separate point of discussion.
Now, let’s put these two together. This manager is likely not taking time to consider how his/her impulsive reactions may be damaging relationships and how emotionally insensitive the interactions may be.
This combination can then lead you further to look at the score for interpersonal relationships, emotional expression and emotional self-awareness.
Being able to look at growth areas with the specific data provided by this tool is a very efficient way to determine where to focus development energy.
I’m super happy to be able to now offer certification classes to coaches, HR professionals, psychologists, etc. in this EQ-i 2.0 tool and the 360 version of it.
The next 2 classroom times being offered for EQ-i 2.0® and EQ 360® certification are:
There are 3 short self-modules to listen to ahead of class time. Also before class the training includes you completing your own assessment and having an hour debrief with me.
If this interests you I’d be happy to chat further about it. Reach out at (512) 413-3537 or marilyn@capacitybc.com
Until next time,
Marilyn
Marilyn Orr, CEC, PCC is a leadership and mentor coach with Capacity Building Coaching , and training partner on EQ-i 2.0 with MHS. She is also co-owner of new Texas Hill Country eco event center and wellness retreat, The Cedars Ranch.
Marilyn is running a 2-day training class this August for professionals wishing to become certified in administering the EQ-i 2.0® and EQ 360® tool. The certification program is being held August 27th and 28th at The Cedars Ranch, Wimberley, TX. Register Today !
Marilyn, in conjunction with Vision Coaching Inc., is also running this 2-day certification program in Saint John, NB Canada, October 1st and 2nd. Register Today!
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